The best way to achieve happiness is by eliminating things that aren’t serving us anymore.
Happiness is a choice, not a condition. If something makes us unhappy, we have the self-control to break our habits and replace them with things that make us feel good about ourselves.
Happiness is extremely personal and unique to each person, but psychology and science professionals May have discovered what anyone can do to keep from getting in the way of their own happiness.
According to science, these 5 habits are keeping you from being happy.
1 Focus on the negative
Dr. Seligman, a psychology professor at the University of Pennsylvania, is a pioneer in the study of happiness.
Seligman’ research shows that participating in behavior that accentuates anything negative is very likely to keep a person from feelings of happiness or joy.
This includes listening to negative people, gossiping, negative self-talk, and engaging in media that is perceived as negative.
Therefore, create an environment of happiness. Your life will begin to change when you start to change your attitude. There is nothing to gain from being negative. therefore, better to stay away. When you are negative it will show up in your body language and it will keep you from achieving success.
Dr. Robert A. Emmons of the University of California, Davis, and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami, shows that we actually receive a greater chemical response (that provides the feeling of happiness) when we give or provide gratitude.
So, sometimes on your journey toward personal development and self-improvement, don’t be afraid to look up.
You’re likely surrounded by people and places that are supportive of you.
Return the favor by showing gratitude.
Gratitude is a great way to add benefits to your life. Gratitude opens the door to more relationships, improve physical and psychological health, improve self-esteem, increases mental strength and reduces aggression.
We can have desires those can be fulfilled with easy efforts, but greed which could not be satiated within our capacity leads to a miserable life.
3 Inconsistent schedule routine
This is a hard one to hear especially for all the free-spirited “I’ll wing it” crew.
But, data concludes that following a somewhat structured schedule or routine 4-6 days of the week leads to a greater sense of purpose, fulfillment, and happiness.
Remember the times the alarm “didn’t go off” and you’d wake up late to school or work?
The sense of stress and urgency never seemed to wear off throughout the day.
Life can be easy once you get yourself on a good schedule. When you design and adhere to a personal daily routine you will find yourself with more peace and more free time.
According to author and professor of psychology Anita Kelly Ph.D., lying can make you emotionally and physically sick and results in not achieving your truest desire (including happiness).
Saying you’ve done something you haven’t, agreeing you’ll go somewhere you know you won’t, or making promises you have no intention of keeping–are all lies.
The worst part about lies is that they usually result in more lying.
It requires the courage to be vulnerable and authentic.
Whether the truth you are concealing is a negative or positive, it is
easier to bear once you are no longer alone.
5 Holding grudges
We’ve all been hurt and are likely to hurt again.
Why then should you prolong the suffering by holding a grudge?
According to the Mayo Clinic, holding grudges can lead to.
• Increased likelihood of becoming bitter in other relationships
• Depression or anxiety
• Loss of value in connecting with others
It’s not really about them, it’s about you. You deserve to be able to move on and the only way to do that is to let go of the resentment festering inside you.
Letting go might not be easy. There will never be a time when life is simple. There will always be time to practice accepting that. Every moment is a chance to let go and feel peaceful.
And your happiness is nobody else’s responsibility but your own.
I am a Business Management graduate from the University Of Staffordshire (UK) and a qualified personnel officer who completed the National Diploma of Training and Human Resource development at Institute of Personnel Management (Sri-Lanka).
Apart from my professional career in the field of HRM, I am also a freelance writer of web and business contents.