There was a time that Brad Pitt was a total craze. His physical attraction along with his gifted talent as an actor made him the star at the time. He has won numerous awards which comprise of Academy awards too. For a number of years he was cited as the world’s most attractive man by number of media outlets.
But what we are going to talk now is something much personal. As we all know he had two almost successful relationships with Jennifer Aniston and after his divorce he married Angelina Jolie. They had six children together but, in 2016 Jolie filed for a divorce from Pitt.
After all these things and as an experienced man, Pitt reveals his deep rooted agonies about his life. His words on marriage would be golden piece of coin for many.
“Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. I would have done differently. After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had:
Never stop courting .
After the marriage, never let that lover inside you to be gone. Your woman chose you. Out of everyone who came after her, she chose you because you proved to be someone special. She was attracted to that lover inside you. So, after marriage, never stop dating. Never ever take her for granted. Don’t ignore her thinking she is legally yours.
Still you have much to do in order to please her. So, never get lazy in your love.
Protect your own heart.
If you need to protect her and look after her throughout your life, then first protect your heart. Love yourself fully and openly. But, just keep one special place inside your heart that no one knows other than your wife. Make her feel special by giving her the key to enter there.
Keep that place ready to welcome her at any time. Make her feel that she is the one. And she is the only one.
Fall in love over and over again.
We all are changing all the time. You are not the same person you were five years ago. Accept all these changes and fall in love over and over again. Remember that she doesn’t have to stay with you. You are the one who should give her a reason to stay. No matter how hard things would be, if you really want her, then choose her over and over again. In fact, choose each other over and over again.
Always see the best in her.
Always focus on what you love. Remember what is making her attractive and why exactly you fell in love with her. When you focus only on positive, you will see only the positive. But if you concentrate more on what is making you feel bad, then what you will feel is also bad. So stop thinking on the points that you do not like in her. Instead focus on what you love in her. Trust me; your life will be much beautiful and easy.
You can’t help but be consumed by love.
It’s not your job to change or fix her.
True that there can be numerous differences between you two. We all are humans and the way you think can be totally different from the person next to you. So, accept her as who she is. Don’t pressurize her and try to change her. Your job is only to love her. Not to make her into someone that is totally different from whom she is.
Take full accountability.
Take full accountability of your actions. You are the one who knows what is making you happy. Don’t think that your wife has a duty to make you happy. You of course are not a kid anymore. Also, don’t even think that your wife is the reason for all your troubles. She would not make you sad. But, if you interpret her in that way, you would only see her in low light.
Never blame your wife if you.
It is totally natural to get angry over her. You are just revealing your true emotions out and she would also understand that. But, take time and think about all what you said and did when you are in a good mood. When we are swayed away with anger and frustration we cannot make proper decisions. So try not to blame her when you are carried away with these feelings.
Allow your woman to just be.
Don’t run away when she needs you. Feminine mind set is always carried away by emotions and changes. When she tries to tell you something, listen to her carefully. It’s not your responsibility to fix all her issues. But, help her to sort them out. Make her feel that you will always be there no matter what the situation is. When she is upset what she mostly needs is a shoulder to cry and good ears to listen. So be the one whom she likes to rely when she is totally distorted.
You can be serious in nature. But, be silly with her. She is looking for a lover. Not a businessman or CEO. So, be her silly lover. Make jokes and let your laughter heals everything.
Fill her soul every day.
Everyday make her feel that she is your queen. You must know what exactly is making her happy and try to please her by doing them. You can simply ask her to write 10 things that makes her happy and keep them in your mind.
Give whole yourself to her. It’s not about your time or your attention. But give her whole yourself. When you are with her, Make her feel that you are fully with her. Treat her as if she is the only valuable thing you are having in world. She is
Be willing to take her sexually.
Carry her away with the power of your masculine presence. Devour her with your strength. Penetrate her to the deepest level of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust on you fully.
Don’t be an idiot.
You will make mistakes and so will she. You are not supposed to be perfect. But, try not to be stupid.
Give her space.
Give her enough space to discover who she really is. Woman is good in giving and giving and sometimes she will need to be reminded to think about her. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul. If you give her that space, she will surely come back with new songs to sing.
Be willing to share your fears and feelings and quick to know your mistakes.
Be fully transparent.
If you need her to be trustworthy and loyal, then you must be someone like that first. Drop the mask and let her discover who you really are. You will be able to witness the full dimensions of love, only by removing your mask.
Never stop growing together.
You will feel that things between you two have changed after sometime. But, never stop dreaming. Find common life goals. Make her a part of your works. When you start to grow up along with her, you will see many wonders.
Don’t worry about money.
Money is not all your life. Don’t make your home a place to earn money. True that you should focus on money but, don’t make it your life’s motive.
Always focus on future rather than carrying weight from past. When you torment her with all what she has done in past, it would only make her regret herself. See her in new light. Accept that she is different from the way that she was used to be. Holding past mistakes will only make a barrier between you both.
Always choose love.
At the end marriage is not about happily ever after. It’s all about how much both of you try to understand each other and hold on, no matter how hard it would be. If you choose love other than everything, you are sure to have a successful life. Never give up on her. Instead make her feel she is the one.
Marriage is life. Learn to learn from love. Face all ups and downs. There are lessons I learnt that way. There are lessons I learned too late. But these are lessons I am learning and committed to carrying forward. Truth is, I loved being married and in time, I will get married again. And when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.