an open letter to the woman who hasn't been herself lately

Dear Woman who hasn’t been herself lately,

I get it, life gets tough. Sometimes life becomes too much for you to handle, and those are the times that make you a strong person. However, at this very moment, it is pretty normal for you to feel like you have lost yourself.


It is difficult to catch yourself not being the same old you anymore. When you do something, or act in a certain way and you wonder, “Why is this happening to me? What did I ever do to deserve this life? Will it ever get better?” The way you’re feeling does not really mean that you are unhappy, you are just feeling weird.

I promise you. Your day will come. This is just a phase.

Believe me when I tell you this. Your light will return to you. Your true moments of bliss, your laughter where your tummy aches, are in your reach and they are seeking you.

The encounters we face on our day to day lives affect our moods to change far too often. Sometimes we do not even understand why.

You must be able to recall the pure happiness you experienced before your first heartbreak before your best friend became someone which you never thought they were before you lost your innocence. Those days must have been full of joy as you never had to worry about anything or anyone that could harm you. You never got to experience anything bad because you were just a child.

I admit the world can be an ugly place at times, but your attitude towards life can change many things. One thing is for certain: you will never lose who you are internal. We always put on a mask to show the world. We use the mask to impress people around us.

Your true self is still a “work in progress”. Hard times always change us for the better, even though we cannot see it now.

Soon enough, your happiness will return to you. You will be better. A stronger version of yourself. In fact, you will turn out to be the best version of yourself.

Once this phase is over, you will be okay. That I will promise you.